In this post i want to share you some tips and advice on how to win back your ex and give your relationship a second chance. More specifically, in this post I’m going to tell you several things you can do to make your ex miss you like mad. Let’s begin by talking about what won’t make your ex miss you, shall we? That way you’ll know, right off the bat, what you absolutely must not do if you want to rekindle things with your ex.
Firstly, you must be able to control your own impulses… if you want your ex back, you need to have the self-restraint to suppress your emotions, act rationally, and trust the advice that I’m going to share with you in this post. The steps you need to take to win back your ex are often counter-intuitive, so many people are tempted to ignore the proven techniques taught by break up geeks like me, and just go with their gut instinct instead. Sometimes, your emotions will compel you to do something that will really damage your chances… you may feel compelled to pour your heart out in a love letter or buy your ex a lavish gift to try and convince them to take you back. These sorts of emotionally-driven decisions almost always do more harm than good, so my advice is to ignore your own gut instincts and stick to the techniques that have been proven to save relationships. I don’t want to get too self-promotional here, but now is a good time to say that if you want a step-by-step plan for winning back your ex, so that you know exactly what to do and say without running the risk of doing something dumb unintentionally.
Not only should you ignore your own gut instincts when it comes to dealing with your ex, you should also ignore anyone who tells you to talk with your ex to try and work things out. You can never, ever talk your way back into your ex’s heart… any attempt to convince your ex to take you back will only make things worse. In fact, any type of “serious discussion” with your ex where you try to sort out the problems that plagued your relationship, or you try to sell your ex on why they should give you another chance is not going to make your ex miss you. It’s going to have the opposite effect. All you’re going to accomplish by talking with your ex even if it’s friendly and seems productive is to remind him or her of the problems that led to the break up. He or she has decided that it’s time to move on and you’re not going to change their mind even if you’re the world’s greatest salesman. Simply put your ex is no longer attracted enough to you to want to continue the relationship. You can explain to them how you’ll change and why they should give you another chance, but that isn’t goingto do anything at all to re-build their attraction. In fact, generally speaking, every time you see or speak with your ex you’re actually going to make them miss you LESS than they already do. That’s because your ex already misses you. Just because your ex was the one to initiate the break up doesn’t mean they’re not going to miss you… in fact, they’re probably feeling the same heartache and loneliness you are. Therefore, if you constantly try to talk to your ex and convince them to take you back, you’re actually going to prevent your ex from missing you as much as they would have otherwise.
If they can talk to you regularly in the weeks and months after your break up, then they’ll be able to slowly adjust to life without you, which is far less painful than if you were to simply vanish all of a sudden. As an analogy, imagine you lost something important that you use everyday, like your cell phone. If it happened suddenly, and you instantly had to adjust to life without ever having a phone, you’d probably find it really difficult to adjust at first. You’d miss having your phone, and you’d really wish you could have it back. But if you slowly lost access to your phone, if you could only use it for 23 hours a day, then 22 hours, and so on… you’d have time to adjust to life without a cell phone. This also applies to your ex. If he or she can talk with you regularly, and slowly adjust to life without you, then they’ll never feel that sudden shock of losing you. Even if you’re only talking occasionally, you’re still available enough that it’s going to prevent your ex from missing you as much as they would have if you completely disappeared from their life.
So, the number 1 way to make your ex miss you is to completely disappear from their life. Assoon as possible after the break up, you should shut down any non-essential communication with your ex. you’ll see other break up coaches advocating for something similar. It’s often called the “no contact”period, and it’s almost guaranteed to make your ex miss you if you actually apply it the way I recommend.
Even the most troubled relationships have positive aspects and you can use this to your advantage by reminding your ex what they’ve lost now that you’ve broken up. This is only going to be truly effective if you’re doing it in conjunction with the no contact technique I just described, but it is a great way to make your ex think about you in a positive light, and is almost guaranteed to make them feel nostalgic and miss you like crazy. The simplest way to drop these subtle reminders is via text message. I’ve come up with several different types of text message that you can use to hint at these happy memories without being obvious and giving away your true intentions. For example, one of the most effective text messages is what I like to call the “Mystery Question” text message
Essentially, it involves posing a question to your ex, asking them about something that relates to a particularly happy memory. You might ask your ex if they remember how to get to a secluded beach that the two of you stumbled across during a fun afternoon together. He or she will be forced to think about the day you went to that beach and how much fun it was to be there with you. You can also mention in your message that you’re asking for directions because you remember how great that beach was, and you want to take a friend there but can’t remember the way. Now you’re forcing your ex to re-live this positive shared memory, and you’re being a bit mysterious by mentioning that you want to “take a friend” there. Trust me, if you can think of an appropriately sign if i cant happy memory to use in this type of text message, your ex will definitely be feeling nostalgic about you and your time together.
The “Mystery Question” text isn’t suitable for every situation, so you can make more ideas and sample messages by yourself or ask anyone to help you, your relationship will better if you do that, thank for reading
