Dear all, have you ever spent time around your crush and wondered what you could do to make her more comfortable around you? Well, in this episode I'm gonna teach you the 3-step guide to touching a girl. There's a lot of talk nowadays about the huge problem of plenty of guys approaching girls and creeping them out, but another huge problem that we're failing to address is that most guys don't know how to approach them. So when it comes to touching a girl, and not in any overtly sexual way there is a method to the madness.
The first step is to always touch a girl with a reason behind your touch. Don't be one of those creepy guys who try to slip their arm around the girl when she isn't looking. Those guys start touching the girls without any context or reason in the situation and while they think they may be making advancements, if the girl's not aware of what you're doing then you're not really doing anything. Instead, touching her with a reason might include something like high fiving her if she says something cool, grabbing her hand to emphasize a point and tapping or touching her on the shoulder as you speak. The key here is to learn how to work being physical into how you communicate. If you're the kind of person that just digsh is hands into his pockets of course it's gonna be weird when you touch her because she's not used to that from you. One thing that people often forget is that if you meet a new girl, you have the ability to control the tone of the conversation. So if right from the get go she see's that you're a normal inter active guy then she's not gonna think anything of it later on.
The second step is to escalate your physicality as you get to know her better. So for example, if you normally tap her on the shoulder don't always just tap her on the shoulder. When you start to see that the comfort between you two is really there, don't be afraid to just lock arms with her, put your arm around her shoulder or even grab her around the waist. Because all of this will help set up the frame work for later. If you find yourself going on dates with the girl but never escalating, when you finally go in for the kiss she's going to be weird out because you've never done something like that before. Touch is like a pot of boiling water, you have to let it heat up first before you toss your food into it, that's was weirdly sexual. And the 3rd step is to always respect her when she feels uncomfortable or says no.
Look, consent is consent and I don't want to spend too much time debating what that means, just remember that touch is always two person experience. If you operate with only your feelings in mind, then you're gonna neglect hers and make her feel uncomfortable which will counteract everything you're putting in the effort to do here. What do you guys think though, have you ever been too nervous to touch your crush? below so we can talk about it. If you feel scared, then you're gonna come off as being scared. Trust me, you're doing nothing wrong by adding touch into your repertoire. Just like you do with talking to the girl. In fact, try to incorporate all five of your senses into the experience. That way you're more aware of her needs, the vibe your giving off and it'll be a lot easier to step outside of your own head. As always guys, love and peace.
